16 ways to Identify
Marriage Problems
Here is a great article on how to identify marriage problems in your marriage. It is written my Paul White of Abilene, Tx. Enjoy!
1. You’ve stopped talking – except about the routine, “nuts & bolts” matters of everyday living.2. You no longer laugh together. 3. Romance is missing. Remember the love notes, calls in the middle of the day, holding hands, kissing spontaneously, long walks, fun dates, little gifts, affectionate pats and hugs that you shared before you married? 4. You have few or no shared short and long-term goals. 5. You rarely, if ever say, “I LOVE YOU!” 6. You share few, if any, interests, activities or friends. 7. Disagreements never seem to get resolved when you have marriage problems. 8. You feel resentment toward your spouse for past hurts that have never healed. 9. Tempers flare over matters that aren’t that important. 10. You criticize your mate to others. 11. Things that used to hurt don’t anymore. This is a real danger sign, because it indicates that you are beginning not to care and that an emotional callus is forming. 12. Intimate conversational relationships are established with members of the opposite sex. 13. Sex is no longer satisfying, or you withhold sex as punishment. 14. You rarely touch each other anymore – except for sex. 15. You fantasize about being married to, or having a sexual relationship with someone else. 16. Infidelity Is there pornography on your PC? Are you Sure? FREE SCAN
Marriages seldom go sour suddenly. Over time the little marriage problems build a wall between you and your mate. In healthy marriages, hurts are dealt with as they occur. If you see yourselves in many of these sixteen characteristics, there is danger ahead! Begin now, before it is too late, to build your marriage. Here are some suggestions: 1. Devote daily time and effort to improving your marriage. 2. Try to re-create the excitement of your courtship by doing some of the things you did then. 3. Fight monotony by doing the unexpected. 4. Do something for your mate every day that says, “I Love You” in a tangible way. 5. Pray daily for your mate and your marriage. God wants you to have a vibrant marriage, and His Spirit will guide you. 6. Consider using a tool such as the ENRICH Marital Inventory to identify the strengths and growth areas of your marriage. 7. Ask for help if you get stuck. This is too im-portant to let embarrassment stop you.
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